Worry about second child (21st Sep 06 17:20:45 GMT)
My son was diagnosed at 20 months as high functioning ASD. He is almost three and they feel that he has actually lost his diagnosis, although we still see signs of Autism and know we are not done yet.
My concern is for my one year old daughter. She is developing so differently than my son. She waves hi and bye, points, claps, has met all her physical milestones and has great fine motor skills. My son didn't do any of those things. She knows about twelve sign language words and says "mo mo" for more and "hiiiiii" for her hi. I'm not sure if she is doing mama and dada. Somedays I think she has dada but I'm not sure. She will give us fairly good eye contact when she is across the floor from us but when she is in our arms her eye contact is poor. I would define her eye contact as inconsistent and not great but not as bad as my sons. She doesn't call to us from her crib, although she will cry when we leave her and does have stranger anxiety sometimes. She looks at us when we call her name. She will point at things and look at us as if to say "hey I want that please." She will hand us things when we ask her for them but she doesn't always bring us toys to show us yet. She is already pretending with a play phone and will imitate us. She was delayed with her babbling and didn't really get vocal until nine months.
I'm just a little wigged out by the lack of eye contact and what seemed oringinally like a language delay. Our Early Intervetion specialist told me not to go down the road of ASD and worry needlessly. She commented that she has seen a lot of siblings of other ASD siblings who have shadow symptoms, particularily in the area of sensory issues which could explain the eye contact.
Anyone with experience with this and thoughts or feedback? We're planning on taking her to a DAN Doctor just to have him monitor her and get her on a protocol if necessary. Thanks for any input and advice.